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Expectation – Eager Anticipation Constipation

If you have never visited iamsecond.com, take a moment and check it out.  They have some video testimonies that will just leave you speechless – in a good way.

I was there today and watched a new video segment that they just put up: The_Parks.

I won’t describe the video here because I don’t want to take away from your viewing it if you have not watched it before but there is a quote from the video that stuck out at me.

You get so confused and wrapped up in expectations that its just easy to kind of go astray.

Expectations.  The word just resonated with me.  And then in the context of the quote it just clanged on me.  These two vastly different impacts caused me to wonder.  So, I opened up dictionary.com and looked up the word expectations.  There are several descriptions listed there but the one that I was drawn to was this: ‘Eager Anticipation’.  That description is why I believe the word expectations resonated with me in the first place.  Its a good feeling description that makes you think of children on Christmas Eve, a mother-to-be in her 8 month of pregnancy, or a family a day before a week long vacation at the beach.  Those images conjure up emotions of eager anticipation.

Yet, in the context of the quote above, the word takes on a different connotation.  Watching the video may make these two things apparent, expectations can be adversely impacted when:

  • They are not met, or
  • are unreasonably set for us.

I introduced another word in the title of this post that I looked up at dictionary.com and here are the two non-obsolete definitions:

  1. A condition of the bowels in which the feces are dry and hardened and evacuation is difficult and infrequent.
  2. Informal. A state of slowing down, sluggishness, or inactivity.

Well, now, that first definition was probably redundant and maybe not even fun to read.  However, that second definition is the reason why the word expectations clanged on me in the quote above.  And this is why – when our expectations are not met OR when someone places expectations on us that are just not attainable, its so easy to slow down or to become inactive… to just give up.  Its no longer about eager expectations because things have gotten all backed up and uncomfortable.

Ever been physically constipated?  When that situation occurs, the desire to eat diminishes for apparent reasons.  Even though the body needs nourishment to be healthy, food just doesn’t seem like a good thing when previous meals aren’t moving along.  Apply that thinking to other areas of life… marriage, faith, work, fun… what used to seem good now appears to be too much because things aren’t moving along the way they were envisioned.

Here’s my question to you.  When you have felt constipated in your faith, what type of medicine has helped you?

  1. June 17, 2009 at 4:10 am

    that’s a tough question. i really don’t know yet. but when i was having a hard time in college, i used to lay on my face (yep), and play a worship set of what i call “soaking” songs, and just cry out to the Lord. sometimes it would literally take an hour or two before i got anything out of it. and i wouldn’t always want to. but when i didn’t want to, that was when i knew my spirit needed it the most.

    • June 17, 2009 at 1:49 pm

      Yes. I like this form of medicine… even though it can sound like ‘drudgery’ or finding time to spend like that seems so hard to do. It can become so necessary when things are backed up.

  2. June 17, 2009 at 9:07 am

    i’m sorry – i just can’t get ‘passed’ that first definition 😯

    i may be feeling a little bunged up by the expectation inherent in the last question??

    Maybe a spoonful of Sugar??

    i could eagerly anticipate that, i’m sure!

    all jokes aside if you have any answers they’d be much appreciated – although i suspect few of us ever find our answers to ou rpersonal constipation in the same way others have.

    i think patience and a little ‘easing’ of our expectations, in combination with being able to see things from another perspective may be beneficial for me.


    • June 17, 2009 at 1:52 pm

      Ha. ‘passed’ !

      Joy Renee responded with one good remedy so far.

      I am wondering if a sabbatical from time-to-time would be beneficial in our ‘hurry-up-and-do-everything’ society.

      I went on an Emmaus Walk once and that was 3 days of heaven because there were no bad expectations being placed on us and we weren’t given an agenda or timeline of what had to be accomplished so we were left without expectations.

      Plus.. no tv, radio, clocks, watches, pagers, phones, newspapers… no contact with the outside world for 3 days. It was awesome.

      • June 18, 2009 at 7:12 am

        personally i believe a ‘retreat’ away from the rat race now and then can work ‘wonders’ for the Spirit and give us a better perspective – and maybe become more ‘regular’ 😉

        Joy-Renee definitely has good answers to life’s tough questions. 🙂


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